Seesaw your emotions...

One professional once claimed it was disordered to feel several things at once. Apparently, normal people only feel one emotion at a time? That means if you loved someone, you would stop loving them when you're angry. 

I can't believe that's right somehow. 

You? 

Do you have emotional depth & are aware of it?

I heard someone once quoted…

I'm emotionally deep. I end up feeling a million strong emotions at the same time

I don't know what to do with them I can also go from really happy to really piss off in matters…

Emotional depth is described as a fundamental feature of emphatic ability.

People with great emotional depth supposedly do not get as confused as often about their emotions as others, especially when they have many different emotions at once. Even when they feel several emotions at once, they do not have crisis. But acknowledge their emotions and accept them.

I recognize my emotions spent years learning to do this and manage them. Previously, they would overwhelm me. My feelings concerning other people used to remain extremely confusing. Over the years I've become better at accepting my emotions which is quite advanced. I've also learnt to recognize emotions emanating from defensiveness, bias, and insecurity, quite adept at not letting them intrude into other areas.

People often say, “I am very emotional” when they burst into tears over the slightest thing or frequently have tantrums. Usually these are projected and subconscious forms of emotionality. Others may be more aware of their true feelings but feel that expressing them is not very beneficial.

 A good cry now and then might make them feel better, but they do not feel that it actually improves things.

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Light your shadow...

We have all had times in our life when it would appear we are encompassed by darkness. In those moments, it seems difficult to find light.

Where do we look for answers & light?

When we see towards the dark sky the brightness of stars are reminding us to look for light in darkness. In a room filled with darkness, a lit candle instantly brings comfort and warmth. The light not only dispels the darkness but also reflects in our eyes & faces.

 On the path to personal growth at some point the burden of our pain becomes too much to bear. Our shadow contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried to hide or deny. It contains those dark aspects that we believe are not acceptable. We resist every thought & feeling in fear of discovering someone we can’t live. After years of failed relationships, careers, diets and dreams, we continue to suppress our internal messages by putting blinders over our eyes and plugs in our ears.

 Instead of suppressing our shadows, we need to embrace it. Our shadows teach us, guide us, expose us and explore us. The feelings that we have suppressed are desperate to be integrated into ourselves. They are only harmful when they are repressed. Their sneak attacks will handicap you in the areas of your life that mean the most.

 How we overcome a trial is largely determined by how we look at it. If we look at a rainstorm as though it has ruined our day, it probably will. If we look at it thankful for the moisture and beauty it will bring to the Earth, we are more grateful because we can see the value in it. It is the same with our trials. If we see them in a negative way, joy will be hard to find, but if we can look for the good, even in the storms, those little pieces of goodness will bring us joy.

 When you show compassion towards another you automatically move closer to the light. Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations you can give and receive.

 Religious leader, Dieter F. Uchtdorf said, “Even though we may feel lost in the midst of our circumstances, God promises the hope of his light. He promises to illuminate the way before us and show us the way out of darkness.” But when we are in darkness, how does God show us the way out? Uchtdorf goes on to say, “Spiritual light rarely comes to those who merely sit in darkness waiting for someone to flip a switch. It takes an act of faith to open our eyes to the light”

Angle your anger

"Violence, attachment, greed and anger," says Guru Nanak "are like four rivers of fire. Falling into them, one is burned”

Anger is meant to work for YOU not against you. Anger is simply a signal that something is amiss. Knowing how to use anger to your advantage depends upon you. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or people around you depending on how you express it.

Often if you feel angry, it’s about something that is happening to you at that time. Sounding your horn if another driver causes you to brake suddenly makes you angry, you express your anger and then move on. When you don’t express your anger, express it at inappropriate time this is when it can damage your health and your relationships. In the longer term you find that when something annoys you, feel extremely angry and respond more aggressively than is appropriate to the new situation. Due to your past bottled up feelings.

Channelized Anger is a type of healthy anger. Which has been redirected into socially acceptable forms of expression…

Grow

When someone offends us, we have a small perspective. The little offense is the biggest thing in the world, and it makes us very angry. It’s not worth being angry, "Be Big" widen your perspective. Truth is other people aren't trying to offend you.

Hug

If you feel someone is being rude as a coping mechanism, mentally give them a hug. We’re the same all of us need hug & compassion at times.

If one wishes to grow, the solution is to examine your life. Think of the task as an archaeological dig a journey into your Authentic Self, the Self who exists beneath the smile, below the rage.

Who isn't afraid of anger this is your journey, your agenda….

Fright Your Fear...

Legend has it that Nasrudin was walking alone at night when he saw a group of people approaching in the far distance. Instantly, his imagination began to toy with him: "They are surely robbers!" he thought. "No, why just robbers? Murderers, cutthroats! Nasrudin's heart began to pound. His mouth became as dry as his palms became wet. 

Having thoroughly terrified himself, he stumbled into a nearby graveyard and cowered shaking inside an open tomb, awaiting his fate. Meanwhile, the harmless strangers, worried by his dramatic behavior, approached him and looked with concern down into the tomb. "What, pray, are you doing down there?" they asked. Nasrudin, calming down quickly, said: "Well, put it this way: I am here because of you and you are here because of me!"

Imagination is a tool!!! We misuse it to torment ourselves? Imagination & Emotions are closely linked. What we imagine can feel very real to us even, when it isn't at all.

The stimulus could be a spider, a knife at your throat, an auditorium full of people waiting for you to speak or the sudden thud of your front door.

 "To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another."

Emotions play an important part in our daily lives. Fear is one such emotion that is programmed into all as an instinctual response to potential danger.

People when experience this moment time seems to slow down.

One of the most frequent commands in the Bible is “do not fear.”  

Do you remember how eager you were to try new things as a child? You couldn't wait? 

‘Let me try! Lemma, lemma…’ 

Didn't think about failure or defeat that your early attempts might be less-than-perfect. You just jumped right in with both feet. You weren't concerned you may not execute the perfect cartwheel or skate board run right off the bat. You were passionate about attempting something new. 

You are the same in reality still except you've been blessed to turn years upon years of calendar pages. 

Don’t fear to embrace the new. It has the hidden key to your growth.

In my world
‘The more, the merrier!’  & in yours…? 

Pathfinder

In times gone by not getting lost was a matter of life or death. One wrong turn could lead you to lion’s den or a foul death from thirst. Cultures navigated by tracking the sunrise-sunset or the stars position in the sky. Both land and sea bear traces of long and short term directional cues. The first seafarers kept in sight of land that was the first trick of navigation. One could line up landmarks, such as a near rock against a distant point on land; doing that in two directions at once gave a precise geometric location. They trailed clouds or odors which carried far out to sea.

Interpreting the behavior of birds a sailor built elaborate maps out of palm twigs and cowrie shells. Over thousands of miles of trackless ocean people could always find their way. Modern navigators still scratch their heads in amazement at their accomplishment. In today's modern world, private and commercial aircraft depend on a complex network of radio, satellite, inertial and other navigation systems. Any or all of these systems fail, the starry sky can serve as the last resort provided lucky to be caught during the night hours.

Humans get lost because we don't pay attention & have lost ancient ways of reading the environment to navigate. The sense of direction withers with disuse, studies have found that using GPS seems to impair people's navigational skills. Many people get lost because they simply aren't paying attention. Humans use landmarks, directional cues, a sense of how far they've traveled, as well as myriad other cues to go vastly more places, often with no prior knowledge.

When forging ahead on a long trek look back and take a mental photograph to visualize the area from multiple orientations. We visualize different routes in our minds to plan how to get from one place to another. These routes vary from person to person on the basis of differing navigational strategies. We reduce things to the simplest curves straighten them, weird angles make them right angles & make square what's not square at all. The reason is it reduces memory load. It's much easier for us to remember something that's got a very simple geometry than something that doesn't.

People say that women are more likely to navigate with landmarks and men are more likely to navigate using the cardinal directions (north, south, east and west).

“The ability to tell a good route from a terrible one is a valuable skill when leading an expedition. Unfortunately for us all, it was a skill I did not possess.” 
― Tahir Shah